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What is Personality?

Personality is ‘that something’ which makes a person either likeable or unlikeable,  agreeable or disagreeable, welcome or unwelcome.

‘That something’ is dependant upon another persons viewpoint.  It could be physical, mental, emotional or psychological.  Some people say that personality depends upon heritage; while others feel that one can have the kind of personality he/she desires regardless of ancestry.

We all have a personality, but not all of us are blessed with a personality that others find likeable.  Sometimes  a minor habit or mannerism can offset an otherwise charming personality;  equally one’s attitude to life could also make for unpleasantness.

We would all like to have a personality that makes us welcome everywhere, that brings success, influence and happiness, so how can we achieve this?

All babies have personalities, but do they retain their ‘baby personalities throughout their life? Not necessarily. The way they are brought up at home, the habits they develop and their attitude towards things,  can have a great influence on the kind of personality they will have when they are older.

Consequently, it is possible to change an undesirable personality trait into a more desirable one.

The first  step is to have a clear mental picture of the type of person you really want to be; decide which habits and traits you wish to develop and which undesirable ones you are determined to be rid of.  Then, you will be ready to start on a realistic program to bring about the personality you desire.

Most of our actions are governed by the images we hold in our mind.  If your mind holds an image of a radiant personality; if you desire that more that anything else, and you keep that image constantly in your mind,  you will have laid the foundation for your success.

Step two will follow in a future post

The best way to banish your negative thoughts is to replace them with positive thoughts.

It’s hard to suddenly stop them completely, after all, they have become an ingrained habit. But with a little practise they can and will be replaced with more desirable positive thoughts. Visualization can play an important part in this practice, and help reinforce new habits.

When you become aware of a negative thought, you can listen and acknowledge it, but then tell yourself that the opposite is in fact the truth. You then need to divert your creative energy towards a more positive frame of mind.

Bring an image to mind of how the opposite thought would look and feel in reality. Imagine how good your life would be when the positive thought becomes a reality.

Each time the negative thought arises, replace it with the opposite. By doing this, you will in fact be creating another more positive habit, which will eventually replace the old one completely.

Your mind is an obedient creature, and if something is repeated often enough, it will accept it as true, and eventually you find that you are acting accordingly.

Try it, you will be pleasantly surprised at just how well it really works, and remember, the more you practise, the easier it becomes and the sooner your unwanted thoughts will be permanently replaced

‘You are what you think’ has been the new age mantra for many years. But true as that may be, it is easier said than done. Most of us still have a problem with trying to change those unwanted thoughts.

The difficulty lies with our ingrained habits. The best way to deal with bad habits is to replace them with good ones. Ironically, this becomes much easier if you stop trying so hard. Relax, and let it be a new experience to look forward to.

Simple relaxation of the mind is the very essence of the Tao of thoughts. It is the ability to enjoy the here and now, to find peace inside yourself.

Think of nature, of the natural growth of all living things. Trees and wild flowers grow in abundance without any man made interference. All their needs are met by an unseen benevolence that surrounds, and is a part of you, I, and every single being, plant and creature in the universe.

This benevolence is allways with you no matter what. Hold this image in your mind at every opportunity. See, feel, allow the love to reach inside.