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How do you compare? It’s not just beauty that is in the eye of the beholder, but everything in life, albeit character, health, wealth, happiness, success, security, safety or danger, is purely an opinion.

Your opinion is based upon your own experience, standards, beliefs, hopes, wishes and fears.

So what is happiness? What is success? The answer lies within yourself. If you can find peace, contentment, and gratitude for all that life has blessed you with, irrespective of what you think others may or may not have, you will have found happiness.

How can you compare your own uniqueness? You and you alone have your own thoughts, you are able to make your own decisions and comparisons based on your own values.

Ask yourself, what is important to you in your life and why? What changes would you like to make and why? What would you stand to gain if those changes were to be made? What would you stand to lose?

Your life is your own, and you mold it as you see fit. Don’t lose sight of the simple pleasures in life, the little things that bring a smile to your face. Some things just cannot be compared.

Once upon a time there lived a beautiful soul who didn’t know what to do. The poor soul was unhappy, because it felt it didn’t belong. The tortured soul longed for a new body, a new life, new experiences, but didn’t know which way to turn.

Does the dilemma of that beautiful soul sound familiar? Do you recognize the symptoms? It’s a familiar scenario that occurs when a turning point has been reached, and the inner voice is crying out to be heard.

Don’t try to push it away, acknowledge that the time has come for change. There is a continual cycle of change and growth in the life of every living being and nothing remains static.

The secret of life is to accept the changes that will occur and adapt accordingly. You can help yourself by taking time out to assess and evaluate the situation.

Ask yourself how you could gain from the imminent changes ahead. What have you put on hold in the past? Could this be the opportunity for you achieve a long forgotten dream? Whatever your goal in life, it is never too late.

Broaden your horizons, try something different, take up a new interest, learn something new, visit a different neighborhood, join a club, meet new people, anything to brush off the old cobwebs and shake yourself out of the doldrums.

A change is as good as a rest, and it’s never too late to change.

Despite good intentions, when you are first faced with the magnitude of a goal, it can be quite daunting. This is very often the cause of your good intentions falling by the wayside.

All too often, even when we really want to make good and change our behaviour, we suddenly find ourselves overwhelmed by the mammoth task ahead.

If this should happen to you, don’t be daunted. Don’t try to make a total miraculous change in your behaviour overnight.

The best way forward is to make your changes little and often. The Japanese word for it is kaizen, which loosely translates to making small but frequent improvements on a daily basis.

Remember that it can take around 21 days for a new habit to be ingrained, and to replace an unwanted one.

If for example your goal is to lose some unwanted excess 1lbs, keep your main goal in sight, but break it down into small manageable portions. Make life easy for yourself by deciding how much you could easily and realistically lose in just one week at a time.

When you achieve a realistic bite sized goal, you have proven to yourself that you are in control, and you are then in the position of deciding whether or not to take another small step.

Carry on in this way at your own steady pace, and before you know it, you will have established a desirable habit.